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Dec 07 2014
Why Do White and Black males have Different Dreams? If you desire to understand what motivates a person to behave in a certain manner, simply listen to him or her talk about his or her dream (s). A dream is a state of mind characterized by abstract thinking and release from reality. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was one... Read More ▸ Category: Culture and Self-Awareness
Nov 26 2014
Three Reasons Why Ferguson is on Fire To understand why Ferguson is on Fire, you do not need a Ph.D. However, you do need to reflect and to allow your heart to guide your thoughts, words and actions. Given that we live in a democracy, every man and woman is entitled to express his or her... Read More ▸ Category: Culture and Self-Awareness
Nov 16 2014
Does Love and Money Mix in Marriage? Love and Money are two factors that propel a large percentage of individuals to head to the wedding altar. However, they are also two factors that lead to divorce. Given this, I personally believe that love and money does not mix. Love and money is only a good mix when... Read More ▸ Category: Relationships
Sep 28 2014
The Three Relationship Commandments Dating and finding a soul mate to spend the rest of your life with is becoming more difficult. With an increase in the divorce rate, both women and men alike are making the easy decision to remain single. Fear of entering into a relationship that will not last has consumed... Read More ▸ Category: Relationships
Aug 22 2014
A Grieving City and Front-line Leadership: Capt. Ron Johnson Upon returning to my hometown of St. Louis, Missouri on August 20, 2014 to give back to my community and to support outstanding leaders like Capt. Ron Johnson, I experienced mixed emotions. On one hand, I felt proud, grateful and excited about being in a position to provide psycho-education to mourning individuals.... Read More ▸ Category: Culture and Self-Awareness
Aug 12 2014
Why We Mourn: Michael Brown and Robin Williams Michael Brown   Robin Williams      As a native of St. Louis, Missouri and a compassionate clinical psychotherapist, I wrote this article with sadness and sorrow in my heart. Over the past few days we have witnessed the negative impact of what happens to a nation... Read More ▸ Category: Personal Growth and Inspiration
Jun 14 2014
Resilient Thinking Resilient Thinking was written to inspire individuals who struggle with overcoming adversity. What this life-changing and inspiring book makes clear is that being realistic and maintaining a positive attitude are key ingredients to becoming a resilient thinker and successfully navigating through life, love and relationships. Resilient thinking is the cognitive... Read More ▸ Category: Personal Growth and Inspiration
Feb 23 2014
Black Economic Empowerment: “I Can” Speech In celebration of Black History Month, I would like to share a speech that I recently gave at an event. Here it is: Throughout history, blacks have fought for economic equality and were inspired by an “I Can” attitude. The Black Economic Empowerment movement was designed to transform... Read More ▸ Category: Culture and Self-Awareness
Jan 05 2014
The #1 Reason You Should Have an Attitude of Gratitude Entering 2014 With a burning desire to establish and achieve New Year’s Resolutions, many of you set aside time to reflect on your past year’s lifestyle and overall attitude. In your quest to maintain a positive attitude entering the New Year, you express gratitude to God for giving... Read More ▸ Category: Personal Growth and Inspiration
Nov 17 2013
Three Emotions That Enslave Single “Good” Men: Fear, Fixation and Firmness One of the most challenging aspects of entering and sustaining a committed relationship with a man is your ability to identify and walk away from single good men who are great candidates but are not qualified to be in relationships. As you improve your screening skills and learn to look... Read More ▸ Category: Relationships